Even though so many people are meeting each other and forming relationships online that your grandma can't even really look at you funny for it (maybe she's doing it herself), a lot of us are doing it wrong.
Her recent Profile Reboot, who's just launched her profile on OKcupid, says she's "gotten a ton of emails." Hooker says, based on her unpaid work for friends, "on average clients see a 75 percent increase in messages." The business of an online dating consultant sounds like a mix between a therapist, life coach, resume-editor, and marketing guru.For her one-on-one consultations, Hooker sits down with her clients, walking through their profiles step-by-step and brainstorming each answer."People don't know how to say who they are in the most effective way," she says."By talking through the ideas, I find that people will feel more comfortable showing their personalities and unique insights.I love helping people to use their own words to express themselves in vivid descriptions that really set them apart from the crowd." Hooker says a profile revamp really should be done on an individual basis for best results.The free advice she gave us as to where we go wrong is pretty solid, though: If you want to go beyond the general advice, Hooker promises that you "can really take your profile and make the most of it, and you can change your life." She's not the first person to spin knowledge of marketing and the online dating field into a money-making idea, and the fact that there are businesses based on helping people online date better seems to imply that online dating is as much a part of our modern lives as going to the therapist.But, as one might ask of the therapist: Do we, in fact, need this? All's fair in love and online dating -- and sometimes we just want someone to hold our hand during the scary parts.Not too long ago, a friend of mine decided to try online dating.I only found out about it because he happened upon my own online profile, which leads my to my first confession of the day: I’ve been dating online for close to a year now, and honestly: I’ve stopped being embarrassed about it.Anyway, said friend — who shall, of course, remain nameless — had all the usual uncertainties about putting himself out there on the internet, and, because I’m nice (or maybe because I like to feel useful), I offered to help him out, based on my own experiences online.Well, I overthink just about everything I do, so of course I got to analysing — in depth — the last year of online dating.