Back in August 2015, the ‘dating’ site Ashley Madison was hacked, exposing married cheaters the world over.We found out 86 per cent of the site’s users were men, São Paulo had the most registered users of any city and it’s mainly used by rich, powerful men.But what became of the marriages of the guilty parties, whose secret infidelity was suddenly not-so-secret at all?One man who was exposed in the hacking has now spoken out about what happened to him in an article for the LA Times. He’d been married for 19 years, and although he’d been faithful to his wife the whole time, the excitement in their relationship had fizzled: “Call it a midlife crisis, poor judgment or a cheater’s heart. We had not taken a vacation without children in years.” Thomas retired from his corporate job early, bought a Harley Davidson and got a tattoo - so far, so midlife crisis.Whatever it was, I easily found fault in my marriage. But then he found Ashley Madison and was so enticed he signed up.Whether the timing was good or bad for Thomas is open to debate, as two weeks after joining the site, it was hacked.He’d yet to take any relationship offline, but he was in trouble.
“How much is your marriage, standing in your community, and reputation at work worth to you? Thomas decided he wouldn’t pay up but Thomas couldn’t give her a real reason though: “I hemmed and hawed, but just couldn’t dance around the fact that I took the first step of introducing infidelity into our marriage.” He begged, groveled for forgiveness, promised to remain faithful, suggested counselling and told her he loved her. His wife didn’t walk out forever though - she came back early the next morning and suggested Thomas book an appointment with a marriage counselor.
“My wife just shook her head and walked out the front door,” leaving Thomas to think about everything he might be about to lose - he’d seen the 50th anniversaries of his parents, grandparents and even great-grandparents. The couple stayed together, and Thomas even writes that he appreciated the hackers’ timing: “I suppose I have Mr.
When the news broke about the Ashley Madison hack, I started watching social media intently.
I read all the outraged comments from onlookers who are astonished that 33 million people would sign up to an extra-marital dating site and cheat on their partners.
Around seven years ago, I discovered Illicit Encounters after I read about it in a magazine.